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Are you tired of living resentfully in a rush hour culture?
As an added bonus:
"Wow! 45 years of resentment its gone! Wow!"
comment by retreat participant as she set
herself free from her resentment.
No Discovering Peace in a Rush Hour Culture workshops are scheduled at this time.
Please see workshop schedule for a complete listing of all retreats and training programs.
In addition to these retreats we also provide practioner forgiveness training programs.
In a "Rush Hour Culture" we often feel stressed and can easily end up in a state of resentment. In this state we resent everything and everyone, even ourselves and the life we live.
In this retreat you will discover how to live compassionately rather than resentfully.
By compassion we do not simply mean a tender hearted vulnerability or a mindless tolerance for rudeness and injurious behavior. We will expand the idea of compassion to include the following three faces of compassion.
We will explore how to live and use these faces of compassion with ourselves and one another
Driving with compassion in the midst of rush hour
will not get you home any faster,
but it will get you home a whole lot happier.
As part of living compassionately we will also look at how you can move from resentment to a place of forgiveness so that we no longer carry the hurts of the past with us.
Resentment isn't what others have done to us.
Resentment is what we do to ourselves
in the darkness of what others have done to us.
One of the main reasons people don't forgive is that they confuse forgiveness with reconciliation.
Forgiveness: Is how you personally resolve what has happened in your past.
Basic Rule of Forgiveness: The primary beneficiary of your forgiveness is yourself. When others have hurt you in the past forgiveness means you get to put down the hurt and leave it behind, rather than carry it resentfully into your future.
Resentment is like drinking poison and waiting for your enemy to die. Nelson Mandela
Reconciliation: Is an agreement between two or more people on how they will live and work together in the future.
Basic Rule of Reconciliation: Never be reconciled to someone who does not share your values.
Jesus forgave the Romans and the Pharisees, but he was never reconciled to the mission of Rome or the mission of the Pharisees.
Forgetting bad things is a real problem, because then we will have to repeat them to remember that they are painful.
Sometimes we need to forgive and remember rather than forgive and forget that some people are dangerous and shouldn't be trusted because they haven't demonstrated trustworthy behavior.
Most of this retreat is based on Rob Voyle's book Restoring Hope: Appreciative Strategies to Resolve Resentment and Grief. You can purchase it from The Appreciative Way Bookstore.
Rob has also written a brief description of the forgiveness process in his blog:
Teach Them to Forgive this Sunday and 9/11: Resentment, Forgiveness, and Reconciliation.
You can also listen to Rob teach on Resolving Painful Memories
This retreat is provided in a one-day format. The specific times and schedule will be dependent on the hosting facility. Please check the schedule for location specific times.
This retreat is designed to lead you through a series of processes to enable you to set yourself free from resentment and live compassionately and peacefully with yourself and others.
You have been shamed once and there is no need to be shamed again, I do not need to know who or what you are resenting to set you free from your resentment. - Rob Voyle
You Will Not be asked to share or tell your story to anyone.
Your experience is private and you will work on it in the privacy of your own mind and heart.
In this retreat we will focus on:
"Wow, 45 years of resentment is gone!"
"I can now feel compassion toward my boss rather than protect myself by being resentful
"I was able to be peacefully, rather than nauseous, around my ex-spouse at a family function"
If you would like to find the freedom of forgiveness register for one of our upcoming
In addition to the one-day forgiveness retreat we also provide:
This program is deliberately designed as a personal retreat in contrast to most of our training programs which provide professional continuing education for clergy coaches and therapists. Because it is a personal healing retreat, no continuing education credit is provided.
For Restoring Hope continuing education programs for coaches, clergy, and therapists please see: Restoring Hope Training.
In general the one-day retreat will cost $75 per person.
Specific retreat prices may vary depending on the location hosts and sponsors.
Your registration is completely refundable, minus a 15% service fee, up to seven days before the start of the program. Thereafter the registration fee will be forfeited.
For more information please see our Cancellation Policies.
Day-long programs are typically at a sponsoring church or organization. No additional accommodation is provided.
Multi-day retreats are typically held at retreat centers and overnight accommodation is provided as well as meals between sessions. Commuter options are also typically available.
Because the locations differ accommodation costs will be specified of the specific retreat registration form.
Rob Voyle is an ordained Episcopal priest, psychologist, and executive coach. He is the Director of the Clergy Leadership Institute and is the author of: Restoring Hope: Appreciative Strategies to Resolve Grief and Resentment and Teach Your congregation How To Forgive. Rob has taught hundreds of people to forgive and find freedom and healing in the reality of unconditional love.
Here is what Episcopal priest Charles Fels said after he learned the forgiveness process:
"Rob Voyle is a great teacher and a gifted priest. His unique approach to forgiveness has been immediately beneficial to a number of people in my own parish. Rob's healing ministry really works!"
No Restoring Hope Retreats Are Currently Scheduled.
Email Rob Voyle if you would like to host a retreat for your constituents.
For a full listing of training programs please see: Training Schedule