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The Appreciative Way News      July 8, 2016

What is Love Calling Us To Do

In This Newletter

   Good Samaritans and What Is Love
Calling Us To Do
   New Webinar
Returning to Love
Begins July 12, 7-8 am PDT
   Training Opportunities for Cultural Sedition Teaching People How to Forgive
Multiple locations:
Rancho Cordova, CA. Sep. 9 & 10
Fort Wayne, IN. Sep. 23 & 24
New Orleans, LA. Sep. 30 & Oct.1
Toronto, ON. Oct. 21 & 22
See schedule for details

Details of all training can be found at:
Training Programs


Good Samaritans and What Is Love Calling Us To Do

The Good Samaritan story was Jesus response to someone who wanted to "justify himself."

I often hear or see people claiming God is on their side as they seek to justify their perspectives and actions. Our political processes are rife with such justification in ways that were very rare when I arrived in this country 34 years ago. And the actions taken in the name of these justifications leaves me wanting to have nothing to do with the God these people proclaim to honor.

I also hear people in churches, and I have said it myself, "what is God calling us to do?"
Which rather than creating a clarity of thinking and action has often lead to rationalization and a lack of action. I have also seen and recoil when God and a perception of God's will is used as a huge club to coerce people into action.

The use of God language as a stamp of divine authority to justify a pursuit of unjust actions leaves me thinking we would be better off as atheists. So much of our country's God language leads to hate and fuels the bigotry, hypocrisy, and violence of our times.

My friend Ron English, who was raised in Ebenezer Baptist church and ordained by Martin Luther King Jr., asks the question differently. Rather than asking, what is God calling us to do he asks: What is love calling us to do?

I have found asking "What is love calling us to do?" leads to a very different response both within me and the people that I am working with.

And I wonder what would happen if our politicians began asking: "What is love calling us to do as a nation?" rather than justifying their actions of hate-filled power mongering with mindless god talk.

By love I am not meaning a sentimentality nor a tolerance for evil. In my teaching on love I use Stephen Gilligan's understanding of compassion: tenderness, fierceness, and mischievousness. Fierceness is a single minded pursuit of a just future.

I distinguish fierceness from anger. Anger is what we experience when we look back on a past injustice. Fierceness is what happens when we transform that anger into a fierce pursuit of a just future. Without that transformation anger, focused on the past, will lead to hatred and a desire for revenge and retribution. We cannot fix the past but we can create a new future.

One of my role models for fierceness is Martin Luther King Jr. His "I have a dream speech..." is a fierce proclamation and desire for a just future. It is not an angry rail against an oppressive and evil past but a fierce vision of a better future. Desmond Tutu and Nelson Mandela are other role models of the fierce rather than the angry way.

There is no place for hate.

And as Jesus reveals in the story of the good Samaritan.

There is no place for indifference.

There is no place for self-justification.

There is only a place for love.

Praying for us all to have the courage to love tenderly, fiercely, and mischievously, in this time of darkness.

Rob Voyle
Director, Clergy Leadership Institute

P.S. Please let me know if you are interested in sharing in my act of cultural sedition and hosting a Forgiveness Training program in your church.


Training Opportunities for Cultural Sedition - I
Coaching People to Return to Love
10 week webinar starting July 12

The challenge of this life is not to stay alive, the challenge of this life is to stay in love. - Chris Rankin-Williams

Its hard to stay in love and manifest the fruit when we are experiencing fear, hate, and all the ceaseless noise inside our heads.

In the new 10 week Webinar: Returning to Love:
Coaching Clients to Grow From Fear To Love
you will learn strategies to:

   Resolve anxiety
   Establish a sustainable sense of being loved
   Resolve demeaning critical self-talk

For more information please see:
Webinar Schedule


Training Opportunities for Cultural Sedition - II
Teach Them How to Forgive
Forgiveness Retreats

"Wow, wow, 45 years of resentment, its gone! Wow!" - Comment from participant in a recent forgiveness program.

I continue to add forgiveness training programs to the schedule.
Check the schedule at: Forgiveness Schedule for a location near you.

If you would like to host a program and learn how to rapidly and sustainably lead a person to a place of forgiveness please contact me.

New Webinar!

Returning to Love

Appreciative Mutual Ministry Review

8 Week Webinar
Live Tutorials:
Tuesday 7-8 am PDT

Begining July 12

Contents Include:

   Move from a fear to love based faith
   Learn the nature of anxiety and how to grow from fear to love
   Rebuild their self-image following personal failure
   Respond compassionately to criticism and bullying
   Resolve performance degrading critical self-talk

For details and registration: Returning To Love

Restoring Hope

Restoring Hope

Use the Appreciative Way to
rapidly and effectively resolve

   Traumatic Memories
   Shame and Guilt

This is not a book about
the need for hope!

This book will teach you how to resolve the consequences of distressing events.

208 pages of healing strategies and scripts.
Access to online resources.

Cost: $39.95

For details and purchasing see: Restoring Hope

Resolving Traumatic Grief

Video of an Actual Session

Resolving Grief

See and learn what is possible in only one session.

Healing doesn't take time:
It's what you do
during the time
that brings healing.

For details and purchasing see: Resolving Grief

Clergy Search Resource

Assessing Skills

A comprehensive library of clergy search Resources

Congregations in transition can subscribe to over 380 pages of strategies and templates for:

   Exit Interviews
   Creating Profiles
   Establishing Search Criteria
   Assessing Clergy Skills
   Discerning Calls

Subscription is $1 per average Weekly Attendance

For details see:
Clergy Search Resources

Coaching Appreciative Leaders for Today's Church

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