Practical Appreciative Inquiry based strategies to effectively resolve grief and resentment.
The Rev. Dr. Rob Voyle is a leader in the development and use of appreciative inquiry in church and coaching settings.
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For many, who have lost loved ones the Holiday Season can be painful rather joyful.
Below are a series of liturgies for "Blue Christmas" services.
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Using the understanding that it is not "what we remember" but "how we remember" that causes distress this meditation is designed to help people build a memory of their deceased loved one that evokes love and gratitude rather than misery. Materials include strategies to conduct the meditation.
This meditation has been used successfully at Blue Christmas Services and also at funerals involving suicide where people were having difficultlty knowing "how to think of their friend" who had suicided.
Order of service compiled by Dr. Jeffrey Sumner, Senior Pastor, Westminster By-The-Sea Presbyterian Church, Daytona Beach Shores, Florida.
A complete liturgy offered by Rev. Ann Fontaine of St. Stephen's Episcopal Church Casper, Wyoming.
A complete liturgy offered by Rev. Susan Bock of St. Gabriel's Episcopal Church, Eastpointe, Michigan
A complete liturgy offered by Rev. Randall Day, Rector of St. Mark's-in-the-Valley Episcopal Church, Los Olivas, California. Offered in a Word Doc and pdf format.
A complete liturgy offered by Rev. Jeannie Martz, Rector of Trinity Episcopal Church, Orange, California.
A complete liturgy offered by Rev. Victor Li, Rector of the Anglican Church of St Cyprian, Toronoto.
Victor reports that he deliberately sets the candles in the same place that a casket would be during a funeral.
My sister Marilyn and her husband Don and their daughter Brie are my heros when it comes to dealing with grief. Marilyn and Don's son Zaan died when he was eight years old having lived most of his life with a brain tumor. Zaan was an amazing child, who, like many with a short life span seized what life he had and lived it to its fullest. When he died my sister wrote and recorded Child of the Angels as her tribute and farewell to Zaan.
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Read Don's account of grief excepted from Restoring Hope.